Sometimes things are just so disturbing that you need to take a moment to let it sink in before you can put it into words. Last night on my webcast Regina’s Universe: Live & Uncensored we were just over an hour into our conversation on Fighting Fair when one of those disturbing moments occured.
When you do a live show you never can tell what’s going to happen next and you get your fair share of crazy people calling in to comment. Last night I took a call from a man who has called in before and he’s known to have strong opinions. He was making some comments that were getting misongynistic about how all fights are started by women in relationships and I did my best to defend my point of view and still respect the fact that he had an opinion even if I didn’t agree with it. Then he said something that was just so out of line that I couldn’t believe it.
He said: “If a girl comes to my house, she’s safe. I won’t kiss her if she doesn’t want to kiss her or fondle her if she doesn’t want. But all that goes out the door if she goes into my bedroom.”
I was STUNNED. I told him that I don’t care if I was begging him to touch me all night long that I soon as I said NO then all bets were off. He completely disagreed even when I said that what he was saying constitutes RAPE. He tried to even further say that my viewpoint is part of the “problem.”
As a woman, as a mother, and as a human being I cannot begin to express how much this disturbed me. For anyone to believe that a woman no longer has rights because she entered his bedroom is appalling. I can’t imagine how many women may have been harmed at the hands of this man or any others who believe the same as he does.
After I dressed him down I hung up on him. In over 2 years of live programming and hundreds of shows I have only deliberately hung up on a person one time before this and if the situation was to happen all over again I would act the same way.
What do you think of his comments? Did you listen to the show?
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Take a pair of sharp scissors and cut off his pee pee.
i honestly don’t believe this BC fellow when he says he has NEVER had a fight with a woman because he sets the rules before hand. i think he is right when he says he is an alien
Wow. While I’m not surprised by his point of view, I’m surprised he said it to a group of people on public airwaves. On second thought, saying something like that over the phone to a group of strangers is probably the only way he would have done it. A Coward and a rapist. Not shocking at all!
Honestly Regina, I think more men than you or I would know about, have this same fucked up mentality. So again, I’m not at all surprised.
As a woman, mother, daughter and sister, I would say “No means No weather you like it or not”. As a rape SURVIVOR, I say “If you can’t take no for an answer, be prepared to suffer from the wrath of not only your victim but from her family and friends as well. You do not know pain until you have been dealt justice by the big brother of a rape victim.” Shame on anyone who supports this person’s point of view. What has our world come to, that we are no better than the beasts who have no conscience? Did we come down out of the trees only to retain the basic animal instinct and react to it?
This blog received many comments on my Facebook page. Feel free to read them here: http://www.facebook.com/reginasuniverse?v=feed&story_fbid=307287499194
Mommadawn: Knowing of your story I couldn’t help but think of you during this interchange and it angered me! It’s so shocking to believe but the post on Facebook received many comments with some people who almost understood where he was coming from. Shocking, still.
Mumbi: You are so right! I bet that there are many people out there that share this point of view but how many would publicly announce on a show? Not too many. It just makes you think.
Jolli Ali: I agree with you too. There’s no way on Earth that someone has not had an argument with anyone because they lay down ground rules ahead of time. I’m not sure of what subservient women he’s dated but it doesn’t seem to ring too true to me either.
Did you guys read the firestorm on Facebook?
Helm: Do you believe in medical castration for rapists?